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Two Couples Struggle In Marriage;
One Marriage Ends,
The Other Marriage Thrives.
The Difference Is In The Action They Take!

Which Couple Will You Be?

Dear Friend;

Almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce. But 100% of marriages have
difficulties. Many people think it is simply a coin-toss on whether a
marriage succeeds or fails. They are wrong. You CAN make the
difference! Success or failure is in your hands.

In October and November, we hosted the Online Marriage Workshop. There
are no plans to repeat the event. But I had many requests to attend,
but we couldn't handle any more participants. And I have had many, many
requests for the transforming information from the workshop.

We have decided to offer all the information included in the workshop
for those who were unable to attend, and at a fraction of the cost for
those who could not afford to attend.

Now I know that some of you have already decided this is for you (some
of you have already told me so). If that is the case for you, just skip
to the bottom and register. All others, keep reading!

I just received this letter and wanted to share it with you (with the
permission of the writer):

"Dr. Baucom,
I just want to thank you for your book, "Save The Marriage". While it
did not save my marriage (we should have everything signed off in a
couple of days), it still helped me find wisdom and comfort. I never
plan to re-marry but I hope to have some meaningful relationships in
the future. What I discovered in your book will stay with me and will
hopefully lead to a better understanding of relationships.
The fact that my marriage didn't last is not a failure on your part but
rather on mine for waiting so long until I asked for help. Perhaps it
is similar to someone who has chest pains and fails to activate the EMS
in time. Sometimes a sense of urgency is the missing facet in success.
Again, I appreciate your effort and sound advice, which I have shared
with others who are striving to keep their marriage together.
Respectfully,
Raymond E. Wakefield"

The reason I share it is because of Raymond's powerful analogy -- he
waited too long to take action! Every day, I have people in my office,
and I think to myself "why didn't they do something earlier, when it
would have been easier to change, fix, heal, and transform?"

Marriage can be tough! Two people, joined together, but sometimes
feeling like enemies. Sometimes, couples find themselves continually
hurting each other, miss each other's needs, and leave each other
angry, resentful, tired, empty, exhausted, and unfulfilled.

Study after study is showing the damaging effects of stress. And
nowhere is there more stress than in an unhappy marriage! We stand in
front of family and friends and make a promise to stay together. Some
people decide to break that promise. Others struggle through.

In the end, there are really three options: 1.) Leaving things as they
are, suffering through (continued unhappiness). 2.) Give up and move on
(separation and divorce). Or 3.) Discover the secret of transforming
your relationship! Neither 1.) nor 2.) are good options.

Instead, the only real option is 3.), transforming your marriage! But
without the proper tools and understandings, transforming your marriage
is difficult. How many times have you tried to make things
different? How many books have you read, discussions have you had,
thoughts and prayers you've entertained, all aimed at changing the
relationship?

"So, What Can I Do?"

A marriage can be restored, developed, nurtured, and transformed! I
tell you that as someone who sees the "miracles" on a daily basis. Note
that I put miracles in quotations. Miracles are thought to come out of
the blue. But in the cases I see, it is because one, the other, or both
decide to do something about it. In other words, the miracle happens
because action is taken.

There is a myth that it takes hard work to transform a marriage. I
don't believe that. It takes effort. It takes a change in thinking and
perspective. It takes a willingness to try something new. Mostly, it
takes a belief that things can change. It doesn't take an overwhelming
belief. Just some small part that says "Things have to change. Things
can change. I will participate in it."

That is the opportunity you have, right now. It is an opportunity you
have to be transformational in your life, in your marriage.

Here's a little story about me: I have always, for as long as I
remember, wanted to Scuba dive. For a long time, it was not
practical. In college, I couldn't afford it. Then came graduate school
(still couldn't afford it, and didn't have any time if I could
have). Then I was a father, and no time.

Years passed, and I still wanted to do it, but never took the time or
chance. Then, several years back, I had a potentially life-threatening
illness. Let me tell you. . . that will change your perspective! I
started doing things I had long wanted to do, but hadn't.

Then, my wife encouraged me to get certified for diving. I came up with
every excuse: "not enough time," "not enough money," "too many other
things to do." But, I also realized it was something I wanted to do. It
took 5 Sunday afternoons, and a trip to Florida, but I got
certified! And I found it met all of my expectations (exceeded them, in
fact). Now, I am working toward being an instructor! All because I took
a chance.

Is that you? Have you always wanted to do something (or maybe even
tried some things) to improve your marriage, but to no avail? Do you
find yourself with plenty of excuses, but still dreaming of something
different?

You could take the risk, and discover that the marriage you want is
available to you, right now and with your current spouse. It will take
some effort, and it will mean taking a risk. But, as someone who has
had his life threatened, take it from me, the risk is much smaller than
you imagine!

The next month is going to pass, one way or another. At the end of it,
will you be able to say "I made a difference in my life, the life of my
spouse, and the life of my family"? Or will the month simply pass with
the same dreams and regrets?

Even if you are at the end of your rope, ready to give up, isn't it
worth one more shot? One more guided effort, one with direction and
assistance?

People often find themselves in situations where they have learned to
survive, to get by. Not happy, but getting by. That is not enough. You
can learn to thrive.

How This Workshop Came To Be

I have to tell you a story. You see, I've been working to save
marriages for over 18 years. A few years back, I began to put together
my ideas, which led to an ebook, Save The Marriage. I kept thinking,
"there has to be more that I can do." So, I added a Quick-Start Guide
To Saving Your Marriage. Now, some 49,155 ebooks later, I still felt
like there had to be a way to be more helpful. I offered coaching, but
I only have so many hours in a day.

Then, just a couple of months ago, it hit me: "why not do a marriage
workshop? Or a marriage retreat?" But I kept coming up with the major
problems people give for not going to such things: too far away, too
much time involved, too much money involved. I kept thinking. . . .
Now, here I was at the beach, looking out at the Intracoastal Waterway
(actually showering off after a beach run), and it hit me! Why not host
an Online Marriage Retreat/Workshop?

I came back home from vacation, and started putting some wheels on the
idea. I realized that I had the perfect solution for helping your
marriage! It was a "no-brainer" for me. You can be anywhere in the
world and take part. You don't have to disrupt your life, find
babysitters, someone to feed the dog, etc.

And it wouldn't even take some special technology. You are using the
only technology you need right now: a computer with an internet
connection (and the free program, Adobe Acrobat, which is likely
already on your computer).

In fact, I was amazed on how that workshop came together. It was a
great experience where participants were on the phone or through the
internet for workshops, then worked on homework provided to all
participants. We covered material that was not covered anywhere else.

And participants ended up being from a multitude of backgrounds (some
even spoke English as a second language). Relationships ranged from
"doing OK" to "just short of divorce" (and even a couple whe were
divorced, but wanted to reconcile).

One month later, all had completed the workshop, and I was hearing
about the transformations. I knew I had to find a way of providing the
information to others. But my time commitments prevent me from
repeating the workshop.

So, my next process was thinking about how to provide the
information. Then it struck me. The way we had set up the workshop
meant I could do it with NO PROBLEM for you, and with less involvement
on my behalf. It was truly a WIN-WIN arrangement. You receive the
information you desperately need, and I can manage my resources better.

Then I realized, by doing this, you have full control over the
workshop, how you use it, and when it takes place. You are in the
"driver's seat" of how you use this workshop! Keep reading to find out
how.

A Personal Greeting From Lee Baucom

I have been using the information, techniques, and ideas for
years. Here is what others have said about my work and ebook: (Click
Here To Skip Comments)

Just A Handful Of Recent Comments:

I love it so far, I am still reading it do to work, but it is something
I cannot put down.PattyAnne
work in progress, 10 months and counting...knowlage is a wonderful
tool.
Rick Bartlett
The book is great, practical, easy to read. I found that it gives good
insight into dynamics of a relationship when it is functional.
Irene Ramos
Save The Marriage was very helpful. The essence of it is: you make
active loving choices and you get rewarded by the same from your
partner. It worked very well for me!
E.S.
I found the ebook very rewarding and helpful, its pretty much stuff we
all know but tend to forget alot.. a very precise accurate read!
L. G.
After 34 years of, what I thought, a happy marriage I found out that my
husband was having an affair and had been for three years, I was
devastated, I thought I could never get over this, never mind come to
terms with it, but with the help of your e.book I have turned my life
around, my husband is no longer having an affair and he is now so
loving toward me, even more so than before, I have learned to take
responsibility for my own happiness and not to depend on others for
it. I am at peace with myself, thank you and God bless you.
Norah
I found the e-book was exactly what I needed. Unfortunatly I found the
site too late for it to save my last relationship (ended over 18 months
ago). When I advised Lee it was too late, he promptly gave me a
refund. I applied the information and ideas I learned toward my 3
months new relationship and so far it is going very well.
Christopher
By reading the ebook 'Save the Marriage' first my marriage has been
saved. Second, We have learned to not get angry every time someone has
a bad day.
Laurie Barthel
It was a wonderful ebook, I really felt like I had spoken to the author
as he really made me feel like it was just aimed at me. I know that
many people experience difficulties from time to time but this just
made me realise how many and how lucky I am to have my husband and
family. They deserve looking after and the book helped me to put life
and family into perspective and just relax.
Nicola Clark
The techniques were eye opening view on the dynamics of spousal
interaction that can't be seen from the inside of a problem marriage.
Mike M
When I ordered the Save the Marriage ebook, my husband and I each knew
we were facing some problems, but neither of us had brought it up to
the other. When I told him that I had ordered it, I was afraid he'd be
upset, but he actually was relieved! I printed it out, one chapter at a
time, and each night after we put the kids to bed, we read that chapter
together and discussed it. I'm happy to report that we are doing very
well now and I look forward to going over the 5 Myths of Marriage with
him!
Courtney Fairchild
Your book made me open my eyes to how I have been feeling these past 20
yrs of my marriage and realize how I have been harboring
resentments. How these resentments have affected my relationship, but
more importantly HOW to let go of them.
Ann Lord
Helped me realize we are two separate people with different feelings
and wants but with the same goals of a loving marriage and home and it
is those goals that make us one.
Christine Deters
I read the e-book Save the Marriage and it helped me with some of the
power struggle issues that we had. We are getting along now much
better, although we are still separated. I don't know if I should hang
in there or if it's time to move on. I know she's been dating, but my
daughter cries sometimes and says that she wishes that we all lived
together again. The e-book was definitely helpful though. It made me a
better person. I've given up on the struggle for power and left my old
jealous self by the wayside. Thanks, I still have hope!
Don in Toronto
Thank you Sir. I found you book extremely useful in evaluating and
analyzing my own performance and behaviour in my marriage. Reading it
together with my wife provided many a talking point and funnily enough
she and I picked very different issues as the 'most interesting' or
'most important' which only goes to show how differently we looked at
our relationship. We are still struggling like hell but I keep going
back to your book for inspiration and to keep myself in check (and to
kick myself in the butt). I can definitely recommend this book to
anyone in our situation.
Christian, Copenhagen
Although I did not read the book form 'cover to cover', The visual
image of the sailboat where each adjustment on one side required an
adjustment on the other helped me realize that if I did not address the
things I did not like by changing MY behavior, nothing would change.
Then I acted on that, and things are changing!
Claudia
The biggest lesson I learned is to just be myself and step back. I
don't need all the answers right now and discovering areas about myself
that need work has been very insightful. I am eager to move on to being
the best person I can be. If this new confidence is attractive to my
spouse, great. If not, so be it. I will still be able to go on in my
life with renewed confidence and self esteem.
Barbara Durfee
Matter of fact advice, focus on the facts and the reality, not the
hopes and dreams that surface during this type of difficulty.
darcy golubovic
The day my husband said he wasn't sure if he wanted to stay married,
was by far one of the worst days I had experienced. I turned to an old
friend who had always been a mentor/counselor of sorts for marriage
advice who recommended a website that lead me to Save the Marriage. I
purchased the book that day and from the first page began to discover
how my actions (including lack of action) had contributed to the
current state of my marriage. I know that marrige is 50-50 so please
don't think I took all the responsibility. Its just that you think
you're in the clear until a new perspective comes along to open your
eyes. Save the Marriage not only offered excellent techniques for
communicating with my husband, but taught me things about myself that
have helped me improve who I am and what I bring to the relationship. I
know with 100% certainty that without Save the Marriage, I would have
made the classic mistakes listed in the book and more that likely not
be married to the wonderful man that I love so dearly. There is risk in
everything, and purchasing this book was well worth it.
Jessica
I find the advice extremely readable and even somewhat entertaining
even though dealing with delicate issues. I highly recommend it.
Andre Setton
I have learned some very valuable lessons. It might be too late for my
current marriage (I hope not), but I know that if I get married a
second time I'll be better equiped to make it my last.
Kyle
Most Important Part: Talking about 'WE' insted of 'I'
Olga Tinschert
I like you can down load info right away.
Katy
The Save the Marriage online program was great in that it was a
wonderful resource to use without the stigma attached to traditional
'therapy'. Also, in going through the steps you could move as slowly or
quickly as your personal problems required. It is a 'safe' way to
explore the dynamics of your marriage.
Kay
I purchased Save The Marriage e-book a few months ago when my marriage
had hit rock bottom. I was hesitant to share the book with my husband
but he was very open and we've been reading it together and talking
about how it is relavent to our marriage. It really has been bringing
insights that we never saw before and I look forward to us continuing
it together!
julie
When you need help; you need help and this site gives you that from
enough angles to really grab your attention.
Graham Hk
There is no question the book saved us. I had to look when I purchased
your book. It was about 11/26/2003. That, in itself adds a little to my
thank you! I am married, with two just teenagers. I thought I was
happily married until my wife said she was unhappy and in a few
instances said she wanted a divorce. I realized there were problems but
didn't know what they were or how to fix them. I searched and at that
time found your book. Your book attracted me because rather than try to
figure out how to fix the many individual little items I (we) were
doing wrong, I knew the way we act always influences others and has a
tendency to correct things you may not be aware that we are doing. The
significance of the date I bought the book is simple. In that December
I felt very uncomfortable with my wife's need to have me get out of the
house on certain days. It didn't click in until one day she was very
anxious. I felt something was extremely wrong. I had never been
jealous, never thought my wife thought of other men until that day. I
planted a video recorder and discovered she was in the initial stages
of venturing outside of our relationship. Her planned events never
happened as I confronted her and the other person. I had fallen in
love with my wife again in October of this same year. A great job
change in late May had made me happier than I had been in a long time.
So I was well on my way to changing myself and how I act, using your
book, when my discovery came to light. That experience was nothing less
than earth shattering to me. The confrontations and the five near
divorces consumed a little over a year of our lives. Trust was
destroyed and we did not know what the future brought. 'Only time will
tell.' I, however, made the conscious decision, at that time, that I
would / will change (and continue to do so) regardless of what
happened. Your book was a life-changing experience for me. I look back
today at different intervals of that year + and think to myself that I
cannot believe how it was possible to weather that storm. Then, today,
while searching on line for some romantic things to do, I again came
upon your book. I asked myself if, today, I feel comfortable enough to
write this note that, in my heart, I would be able to do someday.
There has been a tremendous change in both of us as a result of your
book. Friends and relatives notice how we act toward each other and we
even witnessed a couple, who normally would argue in front of us,
change how they interacted. I can, today, truly say that you changed
our lives and saved our marriage, when to anyone who knew the facts,
would have said it was impossible. I am simply taking a moment 'to
smell the roses' and thank you for your ability to take a complicated,
almost impossible situations and with simple application (and time)
change almost anything. I do also want to share with you what we
discovered in this process and what was a major source of all our
problems. Somewhere after having our first or second child my wife lost
her total desire to have sex. I did not know this. 'She put up with
it.' She thought it had to do with me and I thought she didn't care,
etc., and the pulling apart process started some time ago. My wife was
always my best friend but she was never (confirmed by her mom) very
good at verbalizing what bothered her, even when being asked point
blank 'what's bothering you?' She felt I was not listening and started
confiding in others. The rest is history. The point here is that her
loss of libido, in combination with other things, almost destroyed our
marriage, and neither of us knew it was happening or why. We are
finding our way through this but this, like many other things, is a
work in progress. She has to take a lot of medicines for Arthritis,
etc. and very unwilling to add to the daily intake. So resolving this
and improving the libido issue is delicate at best. I have gotten some
books but this is something that is impossible to change all by myself.
The kids are at camp now and we are having a great time. I don't want
to muddy that experience but will sometime have to chat more with her
about it. I don't know how to approach this except gingerly and
approach is from the 'we' side. I am sorry it took so long to write
but it this is a very important day because I feel that I am able to
write this note! Thank you so much for helping us and keeping our
family together as well.
Best regards, John
Save the Marriage has offered a new perspective to old problems. My
husband and I have fought and worked on our marriage since our
honeymoon 19 years ago and this coaching has changed the nature of the
fights and the outcome.
Ellen
An ideal gift for every couple whether newly married or otherwise.
Sathyamoorthy
My marriage was taking a turn for the worse and my husband was too
embarrased and proud to go for counseling. We'd been together for 11
years at that point and married for 2. We have 2 small children and our
busy lives were taking us away from each other. I thought, if only I
could fix it, just change something, we'd be ok. So I came across your
'Save the marriage' ebook and purchased it. I figured, I'll do what the
book says and pray that it works. Little did I know my husband, without
me knowing, was reading the ebook when I wasn't around and implementing
the same tools on his side. We made it through another year, and though
we have our ups and downs, we still have each other. The ebook really
helped. Seeing us as 'we' and not a 'you and me' really helped my
husband. And just taking the time to listen to him, with interest in
what he had to say, like I did when we first got together, rekindled a
lot for us. My like isn't more important than his and what I have to
say isn't more important than what he does. Just this little change on
my part brought us closer together by leaps and bounds. There were a
lot more things we gathered from the ebook, but they've become part of
our everyday thinking that I can't really remember them. :) Thank you
for your tips and tools. They really helped.
Shandra Rivera
The book was excellent for providing ideas and strategies for most
marriage problems.
Wes Brown
A refreshing perspective on communication in marriage. This method
really makes a difference.
Erika Royal
I really enjoy the format of save the marriage. It provides a simple
guide to building and establishing 'understanding' communication. It is
one of my models I adhere to when counseling couples.
Pastor Seon Thompson
I have been able to understand the areas that were plaguing our
marriage. I took for granted the simple things and used the Save The
Marriage e-book to sort of open my eyes. It did lead me to a couple of
counselling sessions on my own that were truly beneficial to my
emotional well-being.
Stephen
It opened my eyes to things I didn't consciously know I was doing to
hurt my marriage.
Tami Saleska
Although my marriage is not 'fixed' it is not hopeless either. Save the
Marriage has some excellent ideas that help you 'keep off the boxing
gloves' when it is so easy to fight back and then all could be lost.
Bev
Save the Marriage was so helpful to me. My marriage was on the verge of
divorce but after reading your ebook it gave me hope and confidence
that my marriage can be save. We are still working on things but it has
been great the last few months and I thank you.
Kerlley Aime
It helped us focus on the two of us as a couple rather than as
individuals. Just sitting down every night to discuss what we read
enable us to spend more time helping each other find out what was
important to us rather than dissecting what was wrong with our
relationship individually.
Staci Smith
just thanks.
Cami Howlett
Your e-book saved my marriage and my life. I wasn't seeing my part in
the situation, just his. Reading your e-book gave me the techniques to
change the way I was looking at things. It also changed the way my
husband was treating me. He saw the change in me, and started treating
me differently. It was still hard work but worth every minute. Now we
have a great marriage. I appreciate him for his differences rather than
wishing all the time he was different. I tell him I love him for those
differences all the time now. I have truly become his number one
support person and he is mine again. Thanks so much.
Tall one in Ohio
Save the Marriage have taught me a lot about how to diffuse situations
that are quite silly sometimes but are potentially deadly to a
marriage. It has also taught me how to be more in tune with myself and
my reactions. This is vital in any marriage.
D.J. SVG
I learned that my relationship was very unbalanced. I realized that
although it's not all about me, my needs are of equal importance and
should be respected by my partner.
Lydia
I thought my marriage was over. When I read Save The Marriage I saw
that it really was not over at all. We managed to get through the hurt
and are still married and healing nicely.
Audrey
At 17 years of marriage we seperated. we didn't really want a divorce,
but we knew something wasn't right with us. it took 8 months for us to
come back together and in that time after reading your book, we learned
that we had let life interfere with how we talked to each other. we
taked 'at' each other without really listening to what was being said.
we had to allow ourselves time to come to grips with the knowledge that
we weren't the perfect couple we thought we were and even though we
knew 'you can't read each others minds', we had somehow let that slip
and allowed hurts to billed up, all the while wondering how the other
couldn't tell something was wrong. we learned to listen to each other
again and make sure that the other knows he/she is as important now as
the day we married.
kat
I read the e-book, I like the fact that they stress that in after the
affair, both parties must relalize that the affair was a two fold
problem, that the affair may shed light on issues that have needed
attention to correct problems in the marriage and both parties are
responsible for it happening, not equally but accountable.
suzy soley
I am truly surprised about the interest you have shown in helping to
help me get my marriage on track. Thanks!
Gayle Davis
These ideas and techniqes have help in the way of me being a young
married woman and never having good mother and father relationship to
look back on to develop techniqes I needed to keep my marriage a live.
In the world now days the first thing everyone says is forget about it
and move on. This book helps and show you how to fight for your
marriage when nothing else will. Thank you,
Leslie Hanmer
I am a Domestic Violence counselor and foud the e-book helpful to use
in the process of therapy as women who have been disempowered to begin
to think about what they need, want and deserve in a new healthy
relationship.
Deborah
Your program has taught me to look at marriage in a different way. I
had unnattainable expectations for my poor husband and I now know that
he can't be a mind reader, or the one to make me happy. That is my job
to make myself happy, he just gets to share this with me. Thanks!
Michelle
I have been through your ebook once in it's entirety. I study and apply
what you have talked about, and see some chnage already. I just have to
keep with it and make sure my husband does too. Where he was totally
sceptical at first, I think without realizing it, he too is applying
some of the data. Thanks!
Kayle
I was so thrilled to find something like this on the Internet. It is
filled with good, common sense. Eat your heart out Dr Phil!
Kath Newman
It gave me more insight on how to begin communicating with my husband
again. Great!
maria
The e-book was really thought provoking. When I read it for the first
time I really didn't know how to move on from the situation we had
gotten into. It made me realise that the problems we were having could
be solved. In 2 years we've gone from being on the brink of breaking up
to closer than ever. Not only did it make me look at my marriage from a
different perspective - it changed the way I interacted with everyone
around me. My husband, my 2 children and myself are calmer,more
confident and happier than ever. Life is good again!!!
Kay H
Provided a lot of insightful information and gave me a different
outlook and new hope for our marriage.
Ramona Thomas
Some of the benefits i've gotten from the e-book are tools that have
tought me how to make sure that I am completely comfortable with my
self and what's important to me and that I'm not out of place asking
for what I need.
Alisa
Your articles have been very insightful. It makes me step back and look
at things from a perspective that I hardly ever see at all.
She

Why You SHOULD NOT Register

This course is not for everyone. There are some people who should NOT
involve themselves in this program. If this is you, please move on to
other resources:
* First, if you have already decided to divorce, and this is just to
make your spouse or yourself feel better, this program is not for
you. You will make no progress, and you will only end up having to
live a lie, one of my "no-no's." If you are thinking about divorce,
but are undecided, this program IS DEFINITELY for you. If divorce
is not an option, but something has to change, this program IS
DEFINITELY for you. If you have an OK marriage, but it is not quite
what you want it to be, this program IS DEFINITELY for you. If you
have a good marriage, but want to make it great, this program IS
DEFINITELY for you. If you have a great marriage, but want to keep
it up, this program IS DEFINITELY for you.

* Second, if you are looking for a "no effort shortcut" to marital
bliss, this is not for you. In fact, that doesn't exist. Minimal
effort is usually what got people into trouble in the first
place. Notice, I did not say "work" but "effort." I hear people
saying they need to work on their relationship. Boy, is work a dull
proposition. It usually means no imagination and no fun. This
process will not be work, but it will take effort. If you are not
ready to make an effort, this program is not for you.

* In addition to the note above about having already decided to
divorce, if you are involved in an affair that you are unwilling to
end, this program is NOT for you. You are needing to make a choice
and make a change. If, however, you or your spouse has had an
affair, and you are wanting to heal and reclaim your marriage, this
program IS DEFINITELY for you.

* Finally, if you are unwilling to take responsibility for your
marriage and its future, this program is not for you. Taking
responsibility is different than accepting blame or fault. Blame
and fault-finding are about what has happened. Responsibility is
about where you are going.

What's Included In The Program

There are several key components to this program. Each multiplies the
effect of the other. So, let's take a look at each one.

First, I have identified 8 rubrics of transforming a marriage. The
rubrics build on themselves, and reinforce each other. In order to
cover the rubrics, you will attend 8 teleclasses. Each teleclass will
give you the ideas and information to apply each rubric to your
marriage. The teleclasses last about an hour each, giving you 8 full
hours of content to absorb at your leisure womanmp3

Since these teleclasses were recorded as mp3's, you have several
options on how you will listen. You can listen on the computer, or you
can download them to your mp3 player (including iPod's), or you can
burn a CD, and take them in the car with you. You have full
flexibility. These are the actual recordings of the phone calls, so you
won't be listening to some "mastered in the studio" audio. You will get
the powerful information.

woman at a computer 4 Second, to reinforce what you learn in the
teleclass, you can practice with daily homework. You can print off the
email, and get started on the homework. Print it twice, and both of you
have your own copy to work on. This homework has been "battle-tested,"
and has proven to be invaluable in helping people to transform their
relationships. Now, it isn't like school, so no grades are given, and
you can choose when or even if you will do it. But you can expect it to
take anywhere from 15 minutes to an hour per day, depending on how much
you decide to invest.

Third, in order to pull those two things together, there are 5 Question
& Answer sessions from questions posed by participants in the original
workshop. These sessions clarify points made in the teleclass or in the
homework, but where people still had questions. In other words, the
participants probably already had the questions you will have, and have
already asked them. The answers are in these sessions.

Finally, there is a Forum for members to use. You can ask questions of
me, of each other, tell your story, and tell everyone what tricks you
have learned in helping your marriage. Even couples with troubles will
have lots of good information and help to share with others. The forum
provides a place for that. Better than that, we are all in this
together. Your struggles become our struggles. We will share in your
victories! Learning happens better in a community, so the
forum provides a place for community.

The Forum is also the center of the course. All elements of the course
are saved there. You access all homework, all recordings, and all other
information at the Forum. If you choose to post or not, that is up to
you, but the Forum will provide all the information 24 hours a day, 7
days a week. In fact, I have a simple message that walks you through
the course. You just click my hyperlinks, and through the course you
go!

Included is a bonus teleclass: a Lone-Ranger Teleclass for those
working through the workshop alone. If this applies to you, this will
help you apply the material alone and make a change in your marriage.

Now, here's the magic of how we are doing this: we have recorded all
teleclasses into a digital format (mp3) that can be played on your
computer or downloaded to your mp3 player or iPod. So, you can listen
whenevedr it is convenient. If you didn't catch everything, you can
just listen again later. The homework is always available to you, so if
you can't keep up, it will still be there. In fact, I think there will
be some people who will collect the recordings, save the homework, and
do the whole course when it is convenient for them. That's
great! Suddenly, even time is irrelevant! In the TiVo world, this is
called "Time-Shifting." You are not a slave to my schedule or any other
schedule. You can create your own timing.

Originally, we designed the workshop to take 30 days. But now you can
do it in one week, 2 weeks, a month, 6 weeks, 6 months, whatever! You
have control over your pace and your intensity. If you get fired up,
you can charge ahead. If things get hectic, you can slow down. It is
all in your hands. I provide the tools, you choose how and when you
will use them.

What You Will Learn

This course is designed not to be just a "fix." It is designed to
transform your marriage. This is not about "psychobabble," or even
being "touchy-feely." It is about giving you the tools and techniques
to transform your marriage.

So, we won't be going on an "archaeology dig" of past hurts and
pains. I think that gets too many couples bogged down and unable to
move forward. In fact, that is my primary concern with marital
therapy. You may go to an appointment in a good mood, but after an hour
of thinking about all the hurts, you leave mad at each other. Then you
are supposed to go work it out!

That is why the statistics on marital therapy are so dismal. Over 50%
of couples who go to therapy end up divorced, and only 20% report any
significant improvement. Imagine going to a doctor who tells you he
wants to perform a procedure on you. The mortality rate is over 50%,
and only 20% of people experience any improvement in the problem. Would
you take those odds?

There are some advantages to building, versus digging:
* We avoid low-mood therapy, and work from high-mood perspectives.

* This makes the process a far less intimidating prospect for those
who are less willing to be involved in the process. No
"navel-gazing," no "how do you feel about that?" approaches. Just
simple actions building toward amazing results.

* The process is, therefore, more acceptable to men in particular.
Let's face it: lots of men are dragged into therapy, and then made
to feel incompetent in the emotional arena or ganged-up on. (Not
good for keeping a couple in therapy.)

* A couple's past becomes less important. What really matters is
where the couple wants to move toward.

* Insights about the past don't often make the leap to changes in the
present/future. But gaining knowledge, skills, and understanding
does change our actions/reactions, and direction of a marriage.

So, we are not going to make the mistakes of therapy. We are about
building, not digging. That is why we will be working with my 8 Rubrics
of Marriage:
* zig2 Paradigms, Perceptions, and Mindsets. This is
foundational. How you view each other and how you change that view
are the beginnings of change. I'll show you how. I'll give you a
new model that will help you understand your mate.
* Commitment. When you got married, what did you sign up for? Learn
about the hidden commitments you made, and how can you use this to
literally save your marriage.

* Meeting Needs. Marriages begin a downward spiral when we forget our
own needs, and forget to meet the needs of our spouse. Claim your
own needs, and learn how to discover your spouse's needs.

* Being A Team. Why is it that the one person we should see as our
ally begins to be seen as the enemy? More importantly, we will look
at how to become a team, and how this is transformational to a
marriage.

* Identifying And Breaking Patterns. We all get into ruts. Usually,
they sneak up behind us, and before you know it, we are deeply
entrenched, and don't know how to get out. I'll help you identify
the destructive patterns and help you to change them.

* Communication. Notice how far along we are. This is the 6th
rubric. Most put this as the first. I disagree. Communication is
important, but only after the other 5 rubrics are secure. I'll help
you understand communication in a different way, and you will see
why it is not the big issue, but how it can strengthen your
marriage. Learn how to fight fairly, and how to understand the
outlook of your spouse.

* Anger, Anxiety, And Strong Emotions. Your brain is part of the
problem. More specifically, your brain when it gets angry or
anxious is the problem. Learn how to cope with the strong emotions,
so that they bring you together rather than tear you apart.

* Building A Resilient Marriage. We will spend some time discussing
how to be a "resilient couple," how to bounce back from
difficulties in life and between the two of you. Resilient couples
will succeed in marriage, and I can show you how to increase your
Couples Resilience Quotient.

"What Do I Do Now?"

It is time to take action! If you are ready to take action with your
marriage, don't wait.

Don't let inaction continue a path to somewhere you don't want to
be. Think about what you want and then make a decision to move in that
direction. Intention leads to actions. And actions lead to
results. Move your intention to action, and you are on your way!

I've heard from several workshop leaders who are not happy with my
pricing! They were upset with my low price on the original
workshop. Even one "marriage guru" contacted me, upset with the price
he had heard! He charges $500 for one hour of consultation! The
workshop leaders are charging anywhere from $800 to $2000 for a weekend
event (3 or 4 hours of workshop!). The costs for those workshops did
not even include travel expenses, food, lodging, babysitting, and all
the other expenses of having to go somewhere for the workshop! No
travel costs with my workshop.
arrow17 The full cost for the Transform Your Marriage Workshop is
US$147.00 for the teleclasses, Q&A, homework, and access to the Forum.
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price5 Your Workshop Membership:
All Teleclasses, All Q&A Sessions, Daily Homework and Forum Access is
only $147.00.

[_] Yes, Lee, I am ready to transform my marriage! I am joining the
workshop today!

Easy Way to Join:

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By PayPal, you can use credit cards or your bank account (you don't
need a PayPal account to use PayPal).

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I look forward to "seeing" you at the workshop! Remember, with the
design of this workshop, you can "Time-Shift" the whole
process. Teleclasses are recorded as mp3's, and will be available for
download, homework can be completed when it is convenient for you. You
can take the workshop when it is convenient for YOU. You can take
control of the process.

Don't wait to get started. Let me be the "cheerleader" and say YOU CAN
DO IT! But do it now!

Put a circle one month from now on your calendar. By then, if you
follow our time line, you will have transformed your marriage! You will
have taken action, and the biggest effort will be behind you. Picture
the future, and you in the relationship you have dreamed of! Picture a
lifetime together in a relationship you cherish. Now take action to
make that a reality.

Best wishes.

Faithfully,
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Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.

P.S.: Don't wait for another message to move you! Take action. I
promise you won't regret it. Click below to Transform Your Marriage.

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handwriting10 P.P.S: OK, let me make it even easier! I'm going to
guarantee this workshop. You can get a FULL REFUND on your
purchase. The only requirement: that you complete the workshop and make
a good-faith effort to implement all the strategies and ideas. If you
do so, but still don't see any transformation in your relationship,
then you can contact me for a full refund.

You have up to 8 weeks to make a request for a refund, so you have
plenty of time to work through the workshop and really give it a
try. If you promise to really use the workshop, I promise to make the
refund.

In other words, there is ZERO risk to you! If it works, you see an
improvement in your marriage. If it doesn't work, you get your money
back. It doesn't get much better than that! I would say "take a
chance," but you aren't even having to take a chance. So, take action!

Lee H. Baucom, Ph.D.
4949 Brownsboro Road, Suite 147
Louisville, Kentucky 40222
United States of America
502-802-4823
Lee(at)TransformYourMarriage

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